Post by Deleted on Mar 31, 2022 14:05:49 GMT -5
Mar 30, 2022 5:35:28 GMT -5 @paradeofmen said:
Mar 27, 2022 5:44:36 GMT -5 @unclecreamy said:
It seems that female attraction can generally be broken into three categories:- Tall, handsome men. If you're not at least 6'4" and decent-looking, no woman will acknowledge your existence. Physical attraction is biologically deterministic.
- Hypermasculine, emotionally unavailable narcissists. They usually have sociopathic tendencies and lure women into toxic relationships. However, the woman seems to intentionally ignore all the red flags beforehand. The term "treat them like dirt and they stick like mud" exists for a reason. A lot of badboys also fall into category #1, which is how they get away with it in the first place.
- Betabux. Basically, a guy with high socioeconomic status who attracts a woman who wants to settle down. She sees him as a meal ticket and provider for a better life. There isn't much emotional or physical attraction there, though.
People like people who make them feel good. They want to spend time with people who they enjoy being around. That applies to both for romantic relationships and friendships. If you're constantly negative, bitter, or self-absorbed, it's probably not enjoyable to spend time with you.
I'm not saying you can't be yourself, but you need to become the type of person who it's pleasant to interact with for an extended period of time. I can't judge your real-life behavior simply based on your posts in this thread, but ask yourself if your general demeanor and way of looking at the world and interacting makes hanging out with you an inviting prospect for other people.
Attraction is a very complicated thing that can't be categorized in a binary Chad vs. Non-Chad way. I have been attracted to men who are not good looking by society's standards (for example, short - 5'5 - and bald.) It wasn't just about personality and humor and high confidence, although that definitely helps - there are men who I found extremely sexy, and was physically attracted to, even though they didn't fit the mainstream standard. It's critical to note, though, that these men were not schlumpy neckbeards in sweatpants. While not fitness models, they were not overweight and were well-groomed with good hygiene. That's very important.
My husband is 5'8 and I'm also 5'8. I think he is super hot, although physically he is very far from the beauty standard pushed by Hollywood. He has a good job and provides for us, and I'm extremely appreciative of that. However, I definitely don't view him as a "Beta" provider.
I understand that meme (that women date bad boys until they find a "nice" guy who will take care of them) but honestly, it's a very cartoonish way to look at the world. Most of my female friends have been with their husbands or long-term partners for years, met in their mid-20s, and don't feel like they're "settling" for safety with their current partners.
Life is not fair. Men who are wealthy go after women who are at the 99% percentile for looks. Yes, there are definitely gold-diggers who are simply after a man's money. On the flipside of that equation are wealthy men who don't give a shit about a woman's personality, and view her as essentially an object to show off.
You can make the biological argument that men are programmed to look for youth and beauty as it's indicative of fertility. That's also the case with women, who are biologically programmed to seek out mates who can support them and their offspring.
It's amusing to me that if you have an unpopular or controversial opinion it must mean you're trolling.
Not that I can see what's so 'controversial' about asserting that women are historically into men who are tall, rich, and dangerous. But for some reason it triggers cries of "REEEEEEE INCEL!!11"
Anyway...
"People like people who make them feel good"
So, basically that's all people are looking for? Someone to entertain them and give them a dopamine high? Of course, until they get bored of them and look for an upgrade.
"ask yourself if your general demeanor and way of looking at the world and interacting makes hanging out with you an inviting prospect for other people."
Probably not. But then I'm not a drooling normie living a bluepilled existence. Life is absolutely meaningless. What is the point of any of it? We are ripped from the void and thrust into a world of random suffering before we meet oblivion never making any sense of it. It's a cruel joke with no punchline.
"I understand that meme (that women date bad boys until they find a "nice" guy who will take care of them) but honestly, it's a very cartoonish way to look at the world."
And yet it's exactly what happens.